पीछे मुड़ कर देखा तो पाया
             कितने रँग थे जीवन में
अक्सर ठगा, हारा महसूस किया
             फिर भी जीवन भरपूर जिया
क्योंकि एहसास था कि....
               जीवन जिसने दिया है
उसी ने तय किये है ये रास्ते मेरे लिए
                        मुझको चलते जाना था
मुश्किलों से पार पाते हुए।
                           हिम्मत ना हारते हुए
रास्ते खुद बनाते हुए
                             आगे बढ़ते जाना था
नीचे पथरीले रास्ते  थे
                             पर  ऊपर उसका हाथ था
विश्वास ना छोड़ा हिम्मत  ना हारी
                      जीना था तो जीतना था
क्योंकि हार तो अन्त है
                   तो सोचा
 ए बन्दे कायर मत बन
                    खुद पर भरोसा रख
उसका साथ  ही तेरी  हिम्मत है
                      आगे  बढ़ता जा ,जीवन जिए जा
जिसने जीवन दिया उसको जीत कर दिखा।
                                 by jyoti kakkar-who lives for today
          

WE THE HOUSEWIVES- by jyotikakkar (who lives for today)

Last night I organized dinner at my place. We all enjoyed karaoke singing with nice Chinese food.

When the guests went back, I left the whole mess as it was with the idea to watch the TV and relax.

My happiness turned its direction and worry took its place when at early morning I woke up to realize that fan was not working because inverter's battery was completely used throughout the night.

I decided to leave the bed. It was a lazy morning due to the hangover of last nights enjoyable party so I was relaxing with tea and newspaper when my friend called up to inform me that our common domestic help has sent her a message that she is not coming today on duty.

     

Still, I took it patiently because I had an option in my hand of another maid who comes after 11 in the morning.

And we the housewives are very alert when only one ball remaining to win the match.so I called my another friend where my 2nd helper works before coming to my house.and for my dismay that friend told me that she was just going to call me to inform that the maid is not coming today

   Now here comes the motive of the story. I started working patiently took 2 hours to finish it, keeping in my mind that I have got the chance to test my physical stamina.and took my work as a physical exercise.I didn't lose my temper .kept singing while working. I'm satisfied that I have cleared this physical fitness test.I'm happy to find myself physically and mentally fit though I'm not sure whether ill is able to maintain this calmness if again tomorrow they will not turn up.

After 18 hours the electric transformer is still not repaired. Our government is not so efficient like we the housewives who clear all the mess without delay.

With this electricity failure, u lack many facilities like fan, TV etc. But God is still helping me. Weather is awesome so I'm enjoying it sitting on the roof while telling you my today's story.

My favorite lyrics

Zindagi kya hai? (Film-astitva, sung by sukhvinder)

Zindagi khaula samandar jismein doobi kishtiyan
Zindagi veeran banzar jismein uth gai bastiyaan
Jis ko kehte ho janam vo maut ki shuruaat hai.

Itna na maayus ban tu, kar zara zinda dili
Kyon nahi dikhti tumhe vo kabr per khilti kali
Jisko kehte ho andhera, din ki vo shuruaat hai

HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND BE IN PEACE. By - jyotikakkar( Who lives for today)

Remember, the problem is the companion of your life. You don’t want to move with them but they will go along with you throughout your journey of life. They are like an unwanted part of your life. And you have to move with them.

Look at your past. You will see that at every stage of your life you were dealing with some kind of problem. Though you had many good things also but again if you recall, you will find that at every  stage how restless you were about those problems.

At every age, be it childhood, when you were teen, even now and at every place- when in school, college or in the job, with every relation -schoolmates, family or neighbour,.when and where you were relaxed. You were always moving with some kind of problem. and every time you were cursing your luck., thinking that you are always in a difficult situation. What does it mean? Did you never have a happy time in your life? No, You had. many good things also but you did not enjoy them because you were thinking only about your problem, cursing your luck because your full attention was on the darker side. 

You could make your life better by focusing on both sides. While enjoying good things and by dealing with problems with your full capability and patience.

    Problems are an adverse situation in different fields like the financial problem, at work problem, health problem or with any relation.

   The difference is only this that at a young age you were innocent so you were taking small things very seriously. but now at this mature age, you will not be considered wise if you will do so.

Just close your eyes and concentrate on your restlessness. Is the problem really so intense that it affects your life so badly? Can you be happy if you ignore it?

If you find a problem so serious that you are feeling helpless and you want to get rid of this situation, you want to win then you have to be bold. Deal with it with the determination that you are strong enough to face it. You fight to win and leave rest to god. At the end, if you win then celebrate And if you loose then again you be in peace telling yourself that it was a hurdle, you tried your best and God has decided it for you and all was in his hand. I had to give this exam and I gave it with all my strength.

     Keep in mind only one line that -
                                                            you have to be in peace.
                                                                     jyoti -  who lives for today

VENTING MY EMOTIONS. By-jyotikakkar(who lives for today)

 I spoiled my weekend and one whole day with Aayanger yoga .Very-2 bad experience. Now i call it "anger yoga" because teacher was only shouting and was insulting us on our dresses, on ourpostures and mistakes. I don't know why i tolerated her.perhaps because i'm not impatient like her.i wanted to tell her to go and join art of living classes for anger management. So on 2nd day many participants did not come and left the course .

i think yoga makes u calm, polite,gentle person. It brings peace of mind.It teaches u how to deal with the weird situations of your life,.how to deal with the different kind of people,different kind of situations in a balanced manner.

And the best thing which i learnt from AOL is the "LET GO" policy. Bt today's experience was horrible.I'm struggling to throw it from my mind. I'm restless since i left the class..whole day every student age ranges 35 to 75 got scolded by the teacher.

I'm amazed how a yoga teacher can be an angry person. Her attitude was miserable.Whole day she was in hyper mood and angry so neither she was happy nor she was spreading happiness.Instead she created atmosphere of fear and restlessness.Nobody was doing it interestingly.Everybody was waiting for the end of the class.

But one can learn from any situation .So i also learnt.

    I learnt that we should behave in such manner that nobody gets hurt. 

   If we are teacher we have to be patient.A student goes to a teacher to learn not to get scolded.Every student have the different capacity of mind and body.

   If a student is doing mistake she/he should tell him/her that " here you are doing wrong u should do it like this" instead of saying that "you are hopeless", "what to do with you" type sentences.Such behavior of a teacher gives student an inferiority complex,discourages him/her and student loose respect towards teacher.

    I remember 5 years back when i did basic course of art of living  I read about the course in a daily news paper of Dehradun and i joined it just because i loved their bhajans. i didn't know anything about this course .It was a six days course and at the end of the 6th day we all were sad that course had finished so soon.It brought so much change in my thinking, views and behavior. After that i did two repetition of same course just because i learnt and i enjoyed. 

I'm not doing propaganda of "Art Of Living " course but i joined it by chance No body called me to join the course and no body told me to repeat the course.I'm talking about it because i liked it.I came out from the hall in happiest mood.

    But I possess a bold and strong mind which "let go" others with their attitude and i'm a person who deals with my weaknesses myself and moves on with the strong points of my personalities.

    

                                 jyoti kakkar 

                                                --who lives for today

WHAT I REALIZED TODAY. By- jyotikakkar (who lives for today)

The very first thing I do after leaving my bed in the morning near about 5 am is to switch on the radio. Thus I start my day with the bhajans on FM which goes till 7. When the radio stops playing bhajans then I listen to music on my music player according to my mood. Sometimes again bhajans, Sometimes old songs sm times my playlist. Anyhow there should be music. otherwise, I can't work in my kitchen.

So today I was washing clothes while listening to bhajans. Side by side I was arranging the kitchen also when the old songs were playing on the radio. Suddenly electricity went off. 

In the morning when I was in a relaxed mood. (out of house working people jealous of me?) and was not in a hurry for any household work, I didn't realize when I started humming the songs while working in the kitchen. I only realized when I noticed that I was unable to sing the full song because I had forgotten the lines of the songs which I used to sing very often sm years ago. And if u love music u can understand that how u get restless when u r trying to recall the lines and fail. I told my self I shouldn't have had put my hobby in the backspace after getting married.

Songs were...

KISI KI MUSKRAHTON PE MUSKRA,.......

                          AND

MAIN JINDGI KA SATH NIBHATA CHALA GAYA

I thought now I'll give time daily to my singing passion though my thyroid gland is not working properly so the voice has become hoarse and can't sing in much "sur" still I'll start singing from now.

 An idea came to my mind to play the songs on my laptop. And I want to tell you that what did this idea do to this "determined to sing "lady.

I brought my laptop. Put that on the cabinet. outside my kitchen. Connected the speakers. and switch that on.

dows appeared wid beautiful picture of my daughter. I appreciated my photography skills. The cursor was moving towards "my playlist".

Again an idea came to my mind that I should first check my Facebook a/c.and that was the end of my musical mood. It is 9 in the morning and I have missed my yoga, clothes are still in the washing machine. I'm still in my nightgown.while my husband is about to be back after playing badminton. I have not done my daily pooja. and I have yet not planned the menu for breakfast.

I wrote this just to tell u what I realised today. I that I'm loosing so much just to see the pics, who went where what my kids & friends r talking about.

FACEBOOK IS THE BEST WAY TO BE CONNECTED BT NT  ON THIS COST.

So I'm thinking to not check my Facebook page in the early hours.

                            



                                                  Jyoti -

                                                        who lives for today

Surya namaskar-12 poses to age gracefully

I read this article in "YAHOO INDIA". And could not resist myself from sharing it through my blog.

Whether we like it or not, we are getting on and nothing can stop ageing. Be it glowing skin or a lean body, the intention is to age gracefully. Suryanamaskar is a sequence of yoga poses that are almost universally beneficial; with benefits that counter many aspects of ageing. The 12 poses of Suryanamaskar help maintain muscles, help retain flexibility and boost metabolism. Practising Suryanamaskar either at a slow or fast pace help with digestion, soothe the nervous system and strengthen the heart. Not just that, these asanas help you feel energetic, rejuvenated and keep stress and anxiety away.

1. Namaskar Mudra: Stand straight with your feet together, hands by the side. Now, bring your palms close to your chest in namaskar mudra and breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 1 and 12 help retain balance and strenghtens your back, neck and shoulders.

2. Back bending Chakrasana: Inhale and raise your hands. Now, arch your back and stretch your arms upwards as much as you can. Once in this position, breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 2 and 11 help with digestion and tone the arms and spine. They also make back and hips more flexible.

3. Padahastasana: Exhale and bend forward. Touch your toes without bending your knees. Look downwards and breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 3 and 10 increase blood circulation and stimulate the lymphatic system. They also tone abdominal tracts.

4. Ashwa Sanchalanasana: Inhale and place your palms on the floor. Now bend your right leg (between your hands), at a 90degree angle from the floor. Stretch your left leg backwards and arch your back. Then look upwards and breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 4 and 9 help build hand and wrist muscles.

5. Santolasana: Exhale and place your right leg behind you, aligned to your left leg. Make sure your hands are aligned below, with your shoulders. Your shoulders, back and hips should be in a straight line. Once you're in this posture, breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 5 and 8 strengthen your heart and relieve shoulder ache.

6. Shashtanga Mudra: Bend your elbows, chin, chest and knees towards the floor. Tuck your elbows on the sides and close to the body. Then, raise close to the body. Then, raise your hips and breathe normally. Benefit: Pose 6 strengthens your arms and legs, increases flexibility in the neck and shoulders and helps release tension in the neck and shoulders.

7. Sarpasana: Inhale and raise your upper body up to your elbows, your chin raised upwards. Bend your shoulders backwards. Your waist should touch the floor. Breathe normally. Benefit: This asana stimulates circulation in abdominal organs, aids your digestive tract and stretches your body.

8. Parvatasana: Exhale; raise your hips pushing the upper body, keeping your heels on the floor. Keep your knees straight and face downwards-with your eyes on the navel region. Once in position, breathe normally. Benefit: See Pose 5. It stimulates blood circulation and helps strengthen arms and wrists.

9. Ashwa Sanchalanasana: Place your left leg forward, in between your hands and inhale. Now arch your back, raise your chin and keep your palms flat on the floor. Breathe normally once you are in this posture. Benefit: See Pose 4. It also exercises your spine and arms.

10. Padahastasana: Bring your left leg forward (towards your right leg), keeping your knees straight. Touch your toes while keeping your neck relaxed. Once you attain this posture, breathe normally. Benefit: See Pose 3. It also stretches your back and leg muscles.

11. Back Bending Chakrasana: Bring your palms together, inhale, raise your hands and upper body and arch your back. Breathe normally once you attain this posture. Benefit: See Pose 2. It helps tone arms and shoulders. 12. Namaskar Mudra: Come back to the starting position slowly, while exhaling. Benefit: See Pose 1. It also stimulates the respiratory system.

Surya namaskar is a sequence of yoga poses that counter the many effects of ageing. Apart from physical benefits, it helps with the digestive and nervous systems.