Once upon a time……………Once upon a time leadership mattered, now dealership rules the world.
Once upon a time quality was craftsman's pride, now it is a Departmental mess.
Once upon a time mouse was an untouchable mammal, now it is handheld pest.
Once upon a time wisdom was cultivated by wise people, now it is flashed on T-shirts.
Once upon a time teachers taught and students learnt, now teachers trade and students consume.
Once upon a time population was a problem, now it is a flourishing mass market.
Once upon a time competition brought out the best, now it brings out the worst in people.
Once upon a time there was a golden rule, now if you have gold, you rule.
Once upon a time truth telling was good for your soul, now it is bad for promotion.
Once upon a time success meant living by ideals, now it is about using above all principles.
Once upon a time beauty was in the eye of the beholder, now it is a booming business.
Once upon a time the government was clean and sex was dirty, now one doesn't know.
बुधवार, 14 जुलाई 2010
Story on cookies
A young lady was waiting for her flight in the boarding room of a big airport.
As she would need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time. She also bought a packet of cookies.
She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.
Beside the armchair where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next seat, opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out the first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated but said nothing. She just thought:
“What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too.
This was infuriating her but she didn’t want to cause a scene.
When only one cookie remained, she thought: “ah... What this abusive man do now?”
Then, the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half.
Ah! That was too much!
She was much too angry now!
In a huff, she took her book, her things and stormed to the boarding place.
When she sat down in her seat, inside the plane, she looked into her purse to take her eyeglasses, and, to her surprise, her packet of cookies was there, untouched, unopened!
She felt so ashamed!! She realized that she was wrong...
She had forgotten that her cookies were kept in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter.
...while she had been very angry, thinking that she was dividing her cookies with him. And now there was no chance to explain herself...nor to apologize.”
As she would need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time. She also bought a packet of cookies.
She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.
Beside the armchair where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next seat, opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out the first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated but said nothing. She just thought:
“What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too.
This was infuriating her but she didn’t want to cause a scene.
When only one cookie remained, she thought: “ah... What this abusive man do now?”
Then, the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half.
Ah! That was too much!
She was much too angry now!
In a huff, she took her book, her things and stormed to the boarding place.
When she sat down in her seat, inside the plane, she looked into her purse to take her eyeglasses, and, to her surprise, her packet of cookies was there, untouched, unopened!
She felt so ashamed!! She realized that she was wrong...
She had forgotten that her cookies were kept in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter.
...while she had been very angry, thinking that she was dividing her cookies with him. And now there was no chance to explain herself...nor to apologize.”
रविवार, 4 जुलाई 2010
Anger Management Technique
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How to Be Free from Anger
There are some excellent techniques in yoga and ayurveda to help you deal with anger issues and help you free yourself from anger. Anger, as I have mentioned previously, is simply energy and many of the problems that anger leads to is due to the storm of powerful egocentric and aggressive thoughts that arise as a result of it. For long term peace and tranquility there is nothing better that meditation for dealing with anger. Techniques such as Zen Meditation Technique,
So Hum Mantra Meditation or Smiling Buddha Meditation for Happiness are great for this. But, a more active and immediate method for dissipating anger and finding the calm within comes from the school Kundalini Yoga.
Before jumping into this technique let me point out some of the other articles on the website which also provide ways to deal with anger successfully. From Yoga Therapy there is the technique described here, Anger Management with Yoga Therapy. From the healing school of Ayurveda there are the following breathing exercises which are excellent for cooling the system and pacifying anger and irritation, Sheetali Pranayama for Anger and Stress Mangement and Seetkari Pranayama to Lower Blood Pressure. Feel free to try these, or combine them with the meditations above and the exercise below to create a nice anger management program for yourself.
If you are new to yoga, please be sure to follow the guidelines on how to practice yoga which I have detailed in the following 2 articles,
Beginner's Guide to Yoga Practice and Guidelines for Kundalini Yoga Practice.
Anger Management Kundalini Yoga Exercise:
a. Instructions for practicing Anger Release Technique:
This technique is quite simple to practice and it's design is to help you get rid of the anger that is within consciously and then find the peaceful and infinite dimension of you being to promote calm and tranquility.
Sit up straight. You can do this exercise sitting on the floor cross legged, sitting up on your heels in rock pose or even sitting on a stool.
Now close your eyes and allow any anger within you, suppressed or otherwise, to rise up so you can get rid of it.
Next, remain angry, make fists, extend one arm out and start to punch forward with alternating fists. So as one arm punches forward, the other retreats. Breathe furiously as you do this. Allow all the anger energy to be consumed by your vigorous punching. Keep going if you feel there is more irritation or rage energy you need to get rid of. You your breath of help you keep going.
After completing the exercise lower your arms and relax completely. Put a gentle smile on your face and bring your awareness to your breath. Breathe into your heart center and out from your heart center. So feel each breath moving into the center of your chest and each breath emerging from there and flowing out. The heart center or Anahata Chakra, is the seat of love and forgiveness and this exercise and subsequent breathing will help open and balance this center for you. Feel love, affection and forgiveness start to flow.
Remain in this way, calm and peaceful for as long as you like.
b. Duration for Anger Management Technique:
You can do the active portion of this exercise for 15 seconds to 3 minutes. You can do the breathing in and out of the Heart Center for as long as you like.
c. Benefits of Anger Release Exercise:
Helps release suppressed anger, irritation and frustration.
Helps one consciously learn to release and be free from anger.
Helps to overcome hurts and frustration.
Helps bestow peace and tranquility.
Helps to tone the chest and shoulders.
d. Practice Tips for Anger Management Exercise:
Don't be afraid to get angry when doing this practice.
In general, don't judge yourself when you get angry. We all get angry and there is nothing wrong with that, it is ok. Just learn to observe anger when it does arise and don't get swept away with the ego empowering, hateful, negative thoughts that anger ignites. Instead, try to use this opportunity to practice forgiveness and love.
The real sign of a yogi or monk is keeping their composure and equanimity when faced with stressful and upsetting situations. So use those situations to practice Mindfulness and use these situations as opportunity for spiritual growth.
There are some excellent techniques in yoga and ayurveda to help you deal with anger issues and help you free yourself from anger. Anger, as I have mentioned previously, is simply energy and many of the problems that anger leads to is due to the storm of powerful egocentric and aggressive thoughts that arise as a result of it. For long term peace and tranquility there is nothing better that meditation for dealing with anger. Techniques such as Zen Meditation Technique,
So Hum Mantra Meditation or Smiling Buddha Meditation for Happiness are great for this. But, a more active and immediate method for dissipating anger and finding the calm within comes from the school Kundalini Yoga.
Before jumping into this technique let me point out some of the other articles on the website which also provide ways to deal with anger successfully. From Yoga Therapy there is the technique described here, Anger Management with Yoga Therapy. From the healing school of Ayurveda there are the following breathing exercises which are excellent for cooling the system and pacifying anger and irritation, Sheetali Pranayama for Anger and Stress Mangement and Seetkari Pranayama to Lower Blood Pressure. Feel free to try these, or combine them with the meditations above and the exercise below to create a nice anger management program for yourself.
If you are new to yoga, please be sure to follow the guidelines on how to practice yoga which I have detailed in the following 2 articles,
Beginner's Guide to Yoga Practice and Guidelines for Kundalini Yoga Practice.
Anger Management Kundalini Yoga Exercise:
a. Instructions for practicing Anger Release Technique:
This technique is quite simple to practice and it's design is to help you get rid of the anger that is within consciously and then find the peaceful and infinite dimension of you being to promote calm and tranquility.
Sit up straight. You can do this exercise sitting on the floor cross legged, sitting up on your heels in rock pose or even sitting on a stool.
Now close your eyes and allow any anger within you, suppressed or otherwise, to rise up so you can get rid of it.
Next, remain angry, make fists, extend one arm out and start to punch forward with alternating fists. So as one arm punches forward, the other retreats. Breathe furiously as you do this. Allow all the anger energy to be consumed by your vigorous punching. Keep going if you feel there is more irritation or rage energy you need to get rid of. You your breath of help you keep going.
After completing the exercise lower your arms and relax completely. Put a gentle smile on your face and bring your awareness to your breath. Breathe into your heart center and out from your heart center. So feel each breath moving into the center of your chest and each breath emerging from there and flowing out. The heart center or Anahata Chakra, is the seat of love and forgiveness and this exercise and subsequent breathing will help open and balance this center for you. Feel love, affection and forgiveness start to flow.
Remain in this way, calm and peaceful for as long as you like.
b. Duration for Anger Management Technique:
You can do the active portion of this exercise for 15 seconds to 3 minutes. You can do the breathing in and out of the Heart Center for as long as you like.
c. Benefits of Anger Release Exercise:
Helps release suppressed anger, irritation and frustration.
Helps one consciously learn to release and be free from anger.
Helps to overcome hurts and frustration.
Helps bestow peace and tranquility.
Helps to tone the chest and shoulders.
d. Practice Tips for Anger Management Exercise:
Don't be afraid to get angry when doing this practice.
In general, don't judge yourself when you get angry. We all get angry and there is nothing wrong with that, it is ok. Just learn to observe anger when it does arise and don't get swept away with the ego empowering, hateful, negative thoughts that anger ignites. Instead, try to use this opportunity to practice forgiveness and love.
The real sign of a yogi or monk is keeping their composure and equanimity when faced with stressful and upsetting situations. So use those situations to practice Mindfulness and use these situations as opportunity for spiritual growth.
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