शनिवार, 3 जनवरी 2009

published just after diwali

Left alone again?
Cheering call for sad mothers
Hello friends. I am sure all of you enjoyed Deepawali, the golden period of the year. I call it that since children come home for a small vacation to celebrate the festival. Life becomes cheerful and suddenly very busy. But then children have to go back and now you would again be feeling lonely. The same, old routine would have started. Your husband would be busy with his job and you, I am sure would be missing the presence of people around you.
When the kids leave after short visits, the vacuum you felt the first time they left comes back in your life. But don’t worry; you just need some time to go back to your life.
This week’s contributor is Mrs. KV and I bet you will be motivated by her. At the age of 60 she lives all alone in her house. Her husband passed away years ago, leaving her with responsibilities of getting her children married. She not only got her daughter and son married but helped them in raising their kids since all of them were working. But even when she had the option to live with her children, she preferred not to. Her son and daughter are both settled abroad and she is very attached to them and their spouses. She visits them once a year for a few months and then returns to back to India to live by herself. When she is there, she enjoys with family but when she wants some change in her life and time for herself, she comes back here.
Her children also come to visit, though once in a couple of years. But for the remaining time that she spends alone, she keeps herself very busy from 4o’clock in the morning till 9-10 in the evening. Her day starts from a long walk to a temple, which is a good 3-4 kms. away from her house. Besides praying there, she also does some sewa like sweeping the floor etc. So healthcare and praying are done at the same time.
KV has her own social circle. A few are from the temple and keertan mandli, some are her relatives and yet others are her children’s friends. The list is very long, yet she socializes with everyone. She not only visits them but calls them to her place and cooks for them according to their choice. She is always there to help everyone. Her phone is always busy because everyone seeks her suggestion, not because she is highly educated but because she has kept abreast with time and is widely respected for that. On one hand she is the member of a ladies club and on the other, she never misses any occasion or ceremony in the nearby temple. Thus she has made many friends. You can say that though she lives alone, she is surrounded by her well wishers.
Now should not we appreciate her for being busy, cheerful and a socially active person? She could have been sucked into the dull and lonely life after her kids left but her lifestyle is an example for us. She motivates us to enjoy life as it comes.
The situation in everybody’s life is different, so is the lifestyle. Please share your lifestyle after the age of fifty with us by emailing your stories to smallthingsgp@gmail.com

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